What a few wonderful days of awakening. Free Your Kids facebook posted a quote by Stefan Molyneux, and the gist of it was that people cannot be “reasoned” out of their beliefs, because they were PROGRAMMED into their beliefs with force or threat of force/pain.
Then, another friend just facebook posted this quote by Carl Jung: “There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
The lights turned on. I know that the implementation of the pain/pleasure stimuli (Spanking, etc.) in sexual healing is powerful, because, in my experience, (which is in a totally safe environment) it removes negative triggers, and replaces positive thoughts, feelings, and emotions where the old shit used to be.
This makes total sense now. We were programmed with fear, pain, and threat of force. It’s irony that these are what we face when we dive into our shadows to remove the bullshit programming. FACING these triggers (Pavlovian programming) and seeing that they are only powered by our beliefs are – I believe – a key to watching them fall away like a house of cards on a windy day.
People can’t be reasoned out of their programmed responses because they were not reasoned INTO those responses. Their mind is never engaged. People walk around in trance all day long, doing what they have been programmed to do. Thinking or reasoning is very painful to engage, so they avoid it at all costs.
I see that women are afraid of men, and equally, men are afraid of women. Women are afraid of men because men have brute forced women into subjection and submission. This could also be framed as the “Men are more powerful than women” construct. This is just bullshit.
When a woman walks by that turns their heads, men have just been overpowered by something that they don’t understand: The sexual energy of a woman. It disorients, confuses, and otherwise induces the “stupid” factor in men. Men then proceed in the attempt to conquest the *body* of the woman. (Their mind tells them that what they have seen – the body – is the power.) The mind and heart of the woman are engaged only to the degree that allows for the physical conquest, and then ignored.
Men want to hold the space needed for the magic of mutual exchange, reward, and magic to occur. Men, however, have been programmed to believe that their power exists in producing income, a house, and all the finer things in life. This distracts them from the true joy that is right in front of them, to wit, LOVE. Love is not stuff. Love is without fear, hate, control, or ownership. Love is allowance. And there is NOTHING allowing about staying in a proverbial box of fear.
Women want to be able to trust men and surrender to a man’s masculine force without fear. But their experience has told them that men see them as just a “wad mop” and therefore women hold yang (masculine) energy that perpetuates the problem by keeping men at arm’s length. Then they tell men that they want them to be sensitive, and at the same time, fuck them like an animal. Instead of seeking balance, most men just opt for the latter, and notch their belt.
When a man holds a superior yang (masculine) force, and holds a sacred and safe space for a woman to surrender, enter her yin, and fully embrace her goddess, I’ve seen this result in magic happening in my sessions. And in this setting, it’s a total giving to the woman. It’s not a sexual event, but a soul event. It’s the connecting the heart, mind, body, vagina, and spirit. And then allowing her to leave, go on her way, with her goddess fully engaged, without asking for or receiving sex in return. Instead of an object of conquest, she becomes an goddess of power, revered, honored, and protected. She can surrender into her feminine yin, because the masculine has held the yang in a safe container. And that’s all there is to it.
There is no shortcut. The darkness of your fear is calling you. Bring a lighter AND a book of matches, because once you get here, you’re going to set the forbidden forest on fire… I’ll bring the marshmallows, Black’s organic chocolate, and gluten free graham crackers…
Anyone for S’mores?
[This article, while about heterosexual relationships also applies in equal ways to homosexual or polyamorous relationships.]
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